Adaku Efuribe

Grief: Coping with the loss of your loved one

Adaku Efuribe
2 min readMay 31, 2020


There are different stages of grief,
I think the first stage is denial, you don’t want to believe or accept what has happened, you feel you are in a dream and pray you will wake up some day.
During the initial stage, you also have some dreams where you see your loved one, you become happy and excited they are still alive,but only for you to wake up and realise it was just a dream.

At the later stage of grief, you come to acceptance,you accept what has happened and try your best to move on,
It’s an ongoing process,although you may never recover from the pain of losing a loved one,what keeps you going is the assurance you loved them and they also loved you back.
And they are at peace,resting in the bosom of the Lord,free from the pains and the stress of this wicked world.

Look forward to seeing your loved ones again……

In the words of Alenxandre Dumashere;

‘’There is neither happiness nor misery in the world; there is only the comparison of one state with another, nothing more. He who has felt the deepest grief is best able to experience supreme happiness. We must have felt what it is to die, that we may appreciate the enjoyments of life.
Live, then, and be happy, beloved children of my heart, and never forget, that until the day God will deign to reveal the future to man, all human wisdom is contained in these two words,Wait and Hope’’

To anyone going through the pain of grief,the prayer below would help in some way,I pray that God heals the pain you feel as you go through the different stages of grief .


‘’God, give me grace to accept with serenity
the things that cannot be changed,
Courage to change the things
which should be changed,
and the Wisdom to distinguish
the one from the other.

Living one day at a time,
Enjoying one moment at a time,
Accepting hardship as a pathway to peace,
Taking, as Jesus did,
This sinful world as it is,
Not as I would have it,
Trusting that You will make all things right,
If I surrender to Your will,
So that I may be reasonably happy in this life,
And supremely happy with You forever in the next’’


The Serenity Prayer is a prayer written by the American theologian Reinhold Niebuhr (1892–1971)



Adaku Efuribe

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